I admit when I saw his wedding ring, I privately hoped.But something in me just knew he didn't marry a sister. My body showed no reaction to my inner pinch, but the sting was there, quiet like a mosquito under a summer dress. Did the reality of his relationship somehow diminish his soul's credibility? One could easily dispel the wince as racist or separatist, but that's not how I was brought up. I was taught that every man should be judged by his deeds and not his color, and I firmly stand where my grandmother left me.My position is that for women of color, this very common "wince" has solely to do with the African story in America.Scott goes on to detail the history of black women, racist degradation, and beauty standards. But I think the key problem here is a common one--a kind of collectivist approach toward something as individual and private as marriage.It is also believed that a large percentage of Black men marry White women.This is often cited as one of the causes of lower marriage rates among Black women. While Black men marry white women at twice rate that Black women marry White men, i In 2012 The U."I've come across a lot of men who tell me I should be ashamed and say things like, "It's not too late to come home" or "He won't know what to do with all of that." I've heard it all. But the negative comments can be more distressing when they come from family or close friends.
Last August, the “Tunnel Vision” artist came under fire for lyrics in which he spoke disparagingly about black women’s skin complexions “Where them yellow bones?It's complicated Toya Lachon, 43, of Washington, D. Women are taking control of their happiness." Dating interracially can still come with backlash for both Black men and women.C., says she feels frustrated, hurt and even betrayed when she sees Black men with women of other races, but happy when she sees Black women in an interracial relationship. Lachon, who is seeing a White man, has experienced her share of adverse reaction.Marriage has been a declining institution among all Americans and this decline is even more evident in the Black community.In 2014 only 29% of African Americans were married compared to 48% of all Americans.Stories about the number of Black women who are single have made headlines for years, and many of us are tired of hearing them.