Ryan Phillippe and Katy Perry just shut down their dating rumor in the best way possible.It all started on Sunday when the actor took to Twitter to make light of his alleged romance with the pop singer and complained that paparazzi were staking out his crib.I didn't have very much fun at it, which is depressing since I didn't pair up until my 30s.Besides, so much luck was involved in my finding my match that there are probably more alternate universes where I'm still living solo than where I'm married.But as importantly, I appreciate what mature women have dealt with. As a single dad, and I mean a really single dad -- no child support, no au pairs (the whole concept of which is bizarre to me, and I couldn't afford a babysitter, much less an au pair! I mentioned the numbers because if I said I've had 75 dates with 25 women over the years, the response justifiably would be, "Hey, who hasn't? “The amount of child support Shepherd is currently paying her ex-husband is more than New Jersey has required her to pay, so if Sally wanted to revisit the matter in a New Jersey court he would likely face having his payments reduced substantially.” The statement continued: “Shepherd now hopes that her ex will stop his frivolous attempts to get more money out of her and will seek gainful employment to take care of his child like any other capable parent.” After the judge's decision, Shepherd addressed the "huge victory" she endured.My most recent posting elicited more than a few comments, many of them predictably harshly critical of me for dating so much and being "committed to being uncommitted." I've learned some things during my over 50 dating years, and hope some of those lessons are of help to people my age -- men AND women (and yes, next column will be advice for women, as foolish as that may seem to some readers coming from such an uncommitted cad as I). I got divorced 20 years ago and after a three-year, three-state child custody battle that cost more -- financially and emotionally -- than one can imagine, I got sole custody of my then 11- and 8-year-old children. I was busy raising these fabulous kids (the best thing I've ever done) and laser-focused on that and only that. I've been married, engaged, and in a few long relationships. After all, the vast majority of men and women on these dating sites had been in long-term marriages. If you're "alone," you must be either a social pariah, (Ted Kaczynski, the Unabomber), or terribly, terribly pathetic and sad and unable to maintain a relationship.
I know what it's like to raise kids alone, I know that these women have sacrificed professional lives and friendships and social and financial benefits others have enjoyed. Finding a romantic partner is only one of many goals you can have at once. When Sherri Shepherd spotted her ex-husband Lamar Sally's online dating profile, she had a few concerns and decided to share them publicly.On Twitter, the former Just hours before, a judge denied Sally's request for an increase in child support from Shepherd for a child she has no genetic connection to.In a statement for PEOPLE, Shepherd's reps addressed the latest court victory in their long custody battle."), you spend a few days crafting the perfect nonchalant bio and consult a few friends about which profile picture makes you look really attractive (you know, without treading into catfish territory). But the intended effect of Tinder, Ok Cupid, and their ilk hasn't always panned out — and the estimated 22% of adults ages 25 to 34 who are swiping aren't always looking for love..